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Are you a Helicopter Parent? "Have kids: Will HOver"
Retrieved by Pat Darnell | April 21, 2012 | Bryan TX |
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Parenting is a double edged sword tested in fire. Yes, you can be blamed for every mishap, trial, and error your child encounters. But there is no right answer ... ever ... none, zilch, bupkiss, nada! MooPig dislikes pushy parents, but it turns out we might be over the edge a bit ourselves.
Results: "You are airborn but not licensed
Congratulations! You're ascending to full helicopter parenting, but don't feel you need to hover over your children's every life decision."
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These are the 50 Questions :: Followed by MooPig's Responses
When your baby drops a cookie on the floor, you:
Let the dog and baby vie for it.
When your 12-year-old needs to create a science project and diorama for school, you:
Encourage him come to you when he needs supplies and a bit of guidance, but otherwise let him figure it out on his own.
You buy your teen a new cellphone. Your plan includes the option to sign up for GPS tracking that allows you to know your teen's location at any moment. You decide to:
Get the GPS tracking, tell him and give him the option of turning it off.
When your preschoolers go to a neighborhood Easter egg hunt you:
Let them do it on their own, but watch carefully, and if they're not finding any, you give a few hints.
You put your toddler to bed, but the stalling calls – “Mommy I need a drink,” “Daddy, read me another story” – won't stop. So you:
Give it 3 minutes before giving in.
Before purchasing a toy, you:
Look for the types of toys you had growing up.
You notice that your son’s dorm is, well, disgusting. You:
Bring your son a basket of cleaning supplies and his own supply of 2-ply.
When it’s 50 degrees outside, what does your child wear?
A down jacket and a sweater.
When your toddler takes a tumble, you:
Glance to see if there’s no blood; wait for a howling cry, otherwise don’t acknowledge.
Your toddler takes his shoes off while playing outside. You:
Vicariously glory in the feeling of grass between the toes.
When your baby starts to crawl, you:
Assay his play areas and buy some outlet covers and install them yourself and lock up the most dangerous cabinet filled with cleaning supplies.
Your 3-year-old is on the toilet wiping herself in a circular motion around the mid-back. You:
See it as a teaching moment and give her a lesson in the proper way to fold the toilet paper.
Your soon-to-be college graduate interviews for a prestigious internship but does not get the position. You:
Offer to go over her résumé and help her send out more applications.
Your adult daughter gets a job across the country. You:
Promise to visit when she’s settled in.
You do your teen-aged son’s laundry
Every day or so; whites and colored clothes separate.
The “smart limits” on your 12-year-old’s cellphone are set at:
Off.
Your 10-year-old son is allowed to ride his bike:
Anywhere he wants to, as long as he stays in the neighborhood.
When your 9-year-old tells you he'd like to ride the subway alone from school to your apartment, you:
Realize he's mature and might be ready, talk to him carefully about the routes and what to do if there's a problem, give him a cell phone and some money, and let him do it.
Your toddler starts climbing up anything and everything. You:
Let her climb on some of the safer things at home and at the playground, spot her as she gets higher than her own height, and let her know that furniture is not generally for climbing.
Your 4-year-old gets into an altercation with other kids at the playground and is getting whupped. You:
Run over and intervene immediately, separating them, letting certain ones know which behavior isn't acceptable, and vowing to yourself your child won’t be playing with these kids again.
Your child is a freshman at college, how often do you communicate with him (by cellphone, instant message, text message, e-mail)?
More than once a day
How many of these professionals do you have on speed dial – Sylvan Learning Center, school guidance counselor, first-grade teacher?
None
You helped your child with her college admission essay by:
Discussing it at the dinner table as she conceptualizes it, and editing it for her.
How strict are your movie standards for your under-10 child?
I watch all movies with my child and explain anything inappropriate.
What makes you contact your middle-schooler’s teachers:
If my child brings home a D on a test.
Do you use a Kinderkord (leash) when you go places with your toddler?
I always hold my child’s hand in public places.
Your high school sophomore moans that she has an assignment due next week. Your response is:
Discuss aspects of the report with her and why it’s important to know about it; hand her a library card and point her toward the public library website.
Your 7-year-old is invited to a birthday party. She doesn't usually eat sweets because you don't think they're healthy. So you:
Let her eat what she wants – it’s a birthday party, for goodness sake.
Your teenage son makes the varsity basketball team. But he isn’t getting much game time. You:
Offer to shoot hoops with him on the weekend, if he wants to practice.
Your daughter, who recently graduated from college, gets a new car. You:
Review her insurance policy and make sure it’s comprehensive enough; make note of the maintenance schedule so you can call to remind her to change the oil; and insist on putting emergency first aid and repair kits in the trunk.
Your 5th-grader is sad because she was not invited to a birthday party. You:
Talk with her about her feelings, cliques, friendships, and the reasons some people might have to limit a guest list. And then have a special Mom/Dad-daughter outing.
The jungle gym at the neighborhood playground is:
Somewhat worrying, but OK because you’re always there to supervise closely.
You let your 18-month-old walk:
Anywhere.
You plan your child’s day:
As appropriate around your own schedule.
Your child’s birthday is around the corner, so you:
Search frantically for the nicely wrapped gift you bought three weeks ago and hope Dad remembered to pick-up the cake from the grocery store.
Your child’s elementary-school PTA is looking for volunteers. You:
Take whatever volunteer opportunities the PTA offers you, even if it means doing fundraising that has no direct fun with your child – you believe doing your civic duty is a good model for your child.
Your freshman college student is selecting courses for the coming semester and calls you. You:
Take her phone call for help, offer general suggestions.
Your son/daughter joins the Boy Scouts/Girl Scouts. You:
Joyfully drop him/her off at meetings and camp outs, knowing that your absence fosters independence and leadership skills.
You take your early elementary school aged child to a restaurant. You
Scour the menu for something healthy.
Your middle school son gets detention at school. You:
Talk to the teacher and see if her story reconciles with your son's. And, in any case, you tell your son he better shape up.
When your kindergartner is coloring, you:
Get some work done nearby with occasional appraisals of your little Picasso's work.
Your first-grader’s elementary school is a quarter-mile from your home in a quiet tract. You:
Walk every day with her.
Your college freshman daughter’s roommate regularly asks your daughter to go to the library so she can have privacy with her boyfriend.
You:
Figure that you have this information because your child is using you as a sounding board, and you mostly listen, and offer some suggestions for how to approach the roommate to ease up on exclusive use of the room.
When your grade-schooler has a field trip you:
sign the permission slip and say, "have fun."
When your 10-year-old wants to meet friends at the mall, you:
tell her 10 is pretty young to go to the mall with friends; but the next time you go to the mall you'll let her invite a friend.
It's prom time; your daughter needs a dress, so you:
offer to take her on a shopping trip with a friend so you can exercise veto power over the inappropriate.
You enroll your kindergartner in a Sunday School class and you:
ask the teacher to give you a lesson plan ahead of time so you can prepare your child.
When your 6th grader is asked a question by an adult, you:
hope he remembers all the manners you’ve taught him – eye contact, full-sentence answers spoken, not grunted.
When your son graduates from college and starts job hunting you
hope he gets a job and invites you to the “take your parents to work day.”
Your son is 15 1/2 – old enough for a driver's permit. You:
you pay for driver training and the permit, but tell him he won't get his actual license until he's proven maturity with the permit.
_______________Reference
http://www.csmonitor.com/The-Culture/Family/2012/0419/Are-you-a-Helicopter-Parent-Take-our-quiz/Results-Page
http://englishfromfriends.com/blog/2011/07/06/helicopter-parent/
