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Sunday, February 01, 2009

Birth Order -- Rat Pack

If We have ever Met, What is the First Question I asked You?
by Pat Darnell

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The idea behind Birth Order in trying to build a team of members compatible to the tasks, is that it, the order siblings are born into their family, represents a "significant unhampered event," before social, physical, environmental, and moral adaptations come to bear on the new personality. Also the new sibling can dramatically affect the situation and status quo of the children born previous.

But Birth Order has been studied and revealed as significant in our century by Alfred Adler (1870-1937), an Austrian psychiatrist, and a contemporary of Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, was one of the first theorists to suggest that birth order influences personality.
Adler argued that birth order can leave an indelible impression on an individual's style of life, which is one's habitual way of dealing with the tasks of friendship, love, and work. According to Adler, firstborns are "dethroned" when a second child comes along, and this may have a lasting influence on them. Younger and only children may be pampered and spoiled, which can also affect their later personalities.[1] Additional birth order factors that should be considered are the spacing in years between siblings, the total number of children, and the changing circumstances of the parents over time.(WIKP)
And of course this assertion has been repeatedly challenged by researchers, yet birth order continues to have a strong presence in pop psychology and popular culture.

Go ahead and try to prove it wrong, but Birth Order is significant in religious and tribal institutions, as well as in most business institutions, partnerships, and corporations. For instance, the idea of Seniority, and Apprenticeships, Mentoring and Father\Son Generational businesses, all have this unspoken birth order rule in rites of passage. Women are not excluded in this either, as birth order restricts and promotes which child will enjoy what privilege or what sanction.

When the Human Resource person asks you about your family, they are really asking about you, and your birth order. I remember brothers who owned a White Hen Pantry together, John and James, and they never admitted to us employees that they are brothers, for the simple reason, they knew it would lead to ranking.

"Everything I do is wrong..." as a most often call for help in children today... could be the biggest clue to the loss of the knowledge of birth order. "Yes, everything you do is wrong, for your particular order in the litter."

It turns out oldest boys should marry oldest or youngest girl, and stay far away from middle girls. Second sons should follow the order and marry only second sisters... it is a catholic case for arranged marriages. Even in modern dating, it is a glaring empirical truth. Stay away from the older and younger girls if you are second son. Find the second sister... you will be happier. In other words the challenge is compatibility, not tiring rivalry leading to obsession.

So, a polygamist male first born will succeed if he sticks to oldest, and youngest mademoiselles? I suppose so... you prove it.

If you try to label your team members in this way, you will most likely be burned at the stake, as it is the most sacred of truths... next to motherhood, and divine love. Birth Order is one of the major underlying themes of holy books. Some historians have said that America is settled by Second Sons, and Second Daughters, who had no inheritance back in Europe. They moved to the shores of US to find a new life. It turned out to be fathers of a revolution, and writers of a new document... and so on.

It is best to study family offspring in fours of the same gender... [four sons] because certain truths reign in that structure. First child gets along with the youngest child. Second son must leave, and becomes the prodigal son. The first born is always with the parents, tending the everyday occupations of his inherited birth rites. It is not so clear today how this all plays out. But it is certainly feasible that the social order is instinctual in Humans, and applying it in Team Building is a great idea.

TEAM: Rat Pack --
So how do I assimilate this group of only children first borns, and their grouping in Entertainment fields...? Search me... eh.

Only child
Samuel George "Sammy" Davis, Jr. was born in Harlem, Manhattan, New York City, New York to Elvera Sanchez (1905-2000), a Puerto Rican dancer, and Sammy Davis, Sr. (1900-1988), an African-American entertainer. The couple was both dancers in vaudeville. As an infant, he was raised by his paternal grandmother. When he was three years old, his parents split up.

Only child
Peter Lawford -- Born in London, on September 7, 1923, the son of English World War I hero Sir Sydney Turing Barlow Lawford and the former May Somerville Bunny, Peter Lawford spent his early childhood in France and began acting at a young age. Lawford's mother was said to have dressed him as a girl in private up until age eleven. Lady Lawford and Sir Sydney were not married when Peter was conceived. Young Peter lived all over the world with his parents.

Youngest boy
Joey Bishop, youngest of five children, was born as Joseph Abraham Gottlieb in the Bronx, New York, the son of Anna (née Siegel) and Jacob Gottlieb, Jewish Central European immigrants.

Only child
Frank Sinatra was born in Hoboken, New Jersey, in 1915. He was the only child of a quiet Sicilian fireman, Anthony Martin Sinatra (1894-1969). Anthony had immigrated to the United States in 1895. His mother, Natalie Della Gavarante (1896-1977), was a talented, tempestuous Ligurian, who worked as a part-time abortionist. Known as "Hatpin Dolly," she emigrated in 1897. Although it is part of the Sinatra folklore that Frank had an impoverished childhood, he was actually brought up in middle-class surroundings, due to his father's secure job as a fireman and his mother's strong political ties to the Democratic Party in Hoboken. Following his teen years in New Jersey, Sinatra was interested in serving his country during World War II. But on December 9, 1941, close to his 26th birthday, Sinatra was classified as 4-F at Newark Induction Center, due to a punctured eardrum he suffered from a difficult forceps delivery.

Only child?
Dean Martin (born Dino Paul Crocetti; June 7, 1917 – December 25, 1995) was an American singer, film actor and comedian of Italian descent... Born in Steubenville, Ohio, Martin dropped out of school in the 10th grade because he thought that he was smarter than his teachers. He delivered bootleg liquor, served as a speakeasy croupier, wrote crafty anecdotes, was a blackjack dealer, worked in a steel mill and boxed as welterweight. At the age of 15, he was a boxer who billed himself as "Kid Crochet" (Kro-Shey).

It's open ended and you have to pick it up from here.... pd

7 comments:

Pribek said...

On the surface, I will say that I never saw Rat Pack as a team unit.
There really isn't a success through team work aesthetic.
It's more a matter of convenient capitalizing-these guys are all in town, put 'em on stage together, people will look and love it.
But, the birth order hoodoo works at least partially and theoretically.
Joey Bishop, youngest child-enabler type, was a career second banana.
All others were alpha dogs that had already achieved.
But, like I say, not really a classic team with all the classic cogs. Really a lounge example of the super group which, brings up the notion that super groups usually don't sustain, perhaps because of too many first borns?

MooPig said...

I never saw the electricity either with Rat Pack, and once I looked at all their early lives just now,, it sort of proved why it failed as a team.
Joey Bishop, youngest child-enabler type, was a career second banana

If I may turn that around a bit: Yes, because we all are experiencing "second careers," as our parents and siblings are living "longer lives," we are all out-living the money... except for the unnervingly wealthy.

I became interested in birth order for the first time as a young 'un I watched the original "Dating Game" on early TV.

Because I then read about the "game players" who are chosen: 'That the people, who are chosen to go on the show, because of good looks and "alpha" qualities, majority of the time had awful "Dates" with each other'

As a naive onlooker, I assumed the "dates" were made in heaven... and all those eye candy babes were the catch to get, silly me...

Then in my twenties I again started looking for a guide to companions... even went to some seminars. Also I read a book by "Boles; What Color is your Parachute." So the lesson is still compatibility over obsessive miss- attractions... the results all said I should have been a Lawyer... eh?

Birth Order remains a mysterious underlain argument of society, vaguely a quixotic end journey, final consideration of society as a mish-mash of siblings.

And I must say I have had some success in business of middle management using birth order dynamics. It doesn't hurt to have lots of tools when trying to survive out there.

How do we describe the "Rolling Stones," then...? search me..

Really a lounge example of the super group which, brings up the notion that super groups usually don't sustain, perhaps because of too many first borns?

I think it is why civilization is settling on a One God religion system, getting rid of the poly-god thing. Too many alphas up there makes for too much confusion.

Pribek said...

"the results all said I should have been a Lawyer... eh?"
Reminds of that joke where in Hell, the Swiss would be the cooks, the Brits would be the lovers, the German the police and the Italians would make the watches.
In a perfect world, maybe the last born and middle children would make good lawyers but, in reality where law is actually the commodities market, probably not.

nitramnaed said...

Dean had an older brother named Bill.

MooPig said...

Thanks, nitramnaed,that makes great sense. Dean sort of has the second son "let it be" look to him. I couldn't find any family history on him.

Bill [or Guielermo] Crocetti, is that it?

Anonymous said...

My guess is...."Have we ever met?"

MooPig said...

No, I would have asked: "So, do you have any brothers and sisters?"

I can be a real stinker that way...

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