Retrieved articles by Pat Darnell | Dec 28, 2013 | Bryan TX
[Picture LINK] Pelletier was taken to Boston Children’s Hospital when she got the flu in February. Her parents said doctors at the hospital accused them of medical child abuse – something they vehemently oppose.
The 7 Worst Things You Can Say To Your Child: "Parenting can be so damn stressful. Kids push boundaries and buttons, and it’s a parent’s job to stay calm and steady in the face of it all. But most of us don’t perform this job with absolute perfection. We sometimes and say things to our kids we wish we could stuff back inside our mouths. I’m sure most of us have some cringe-worthy moments to mull over and make up for" (REBECCA ODES | June 30th, 2011. LINK) ..."
Kind-patience, long-suffering, friendly-courtesy, calm-serenity, soft-skills, might not be part of a person's vocabulary before he or she becomes a parent.
The conditioning one receives from perilous parenting supplants all previous learned curricula. One cannot escape a child's adolescence, and the parent usually ends up unable to forgive oneself for all the battles that came out of that "special" time. Action speaks louder than words; at least that is what we thought. Our words are remembered, and remembered, and repeated, for generations.
This linked article gives us at least seven examples of things we say as we resort to incivility in our conversations with our children:
- "If you don't stop that I'm going to leave you here"
- "Why can't you be more like your sister or brother?"
- "You're the reason we got divorced."
- "Because I said so, that's why."
- "Here, let me do that for you."
- "You should be ashamed of yourself."
- "We never wanted you anyway."
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